Parental and juvenile overwhelm are usually a tangled threaded mess. They build on one another and seem to escalate in dance.

Usually its root is being fed by “too much”.

Too many activities, too many belongings (that cause frequent messes and stress), too many expectations, too filled of a schedule, too many dates with friends, too many sports, too much school work, too much media, too much noise.

It may seem counterintuitive, but often what we need to increase our peace (and that of our children) is more solitude, more quiet sound of the neighborhood, more time outside grounding, more time in nature, more time to talk to one another and connect.

In my current chapter of life, I have a one month old baby. After the first couple weeks of bed rest, I try to connect with my older kids, but this can be challenging, especially if I don’t have the physical ability to be outside and going for walks, but this can look like playing Uno from the couch, or coloring in bed with my toddlers.

Connection diffuses overwhelm. So often when we are in a period of “too much” we are too distracted to connect in any meaningful way. We become disregulated.

Our culture is filled with messages constantly telling us to do more. Instead, take a step back. Evaluate which expectations serve you (and your family). Choose days in which you will stay in all day and choose others for activities and errands. Create some rhythms and re-evaluate those rhythms periodically to ensure they are beneficial and bring joy.


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